- LACK OF NOVELTY
Most relationships need excitement, change and new experiences as much as they need stability, loyalty and certainty. When novelty fades, it may leave people feeling bored or empty and seeking new experiences.
TRY THIS TO KEEP THE LOVE ALIVE:
- Plan playful and unpredictable dates for each other
- Verbalize your love and appreciate often
- Do something once a week that your partner wants to do
- Pursue a common interest or hobby together
- Share kinks & fantasies to amp up your sex life
- Remember it’s normal for long-term relationships to feel stagnant every now & then
- BUILT-UP RESENTMENT
Resentment is often a result of allowing core parts of ourselves to be ignored or lost within the relationship. When this happens repeatedly or over a period of time, it erodes relationships.
TRY THIS TO KEEP THE LOVE ALIVE:
- Learn to say NO, set healthy boundaries and state your needs clearly and regularly without waiting till resentment builds up
- Maintain your individuality within the relationship
- Have a little ritual to”break up” with your resentment: Write down your resentments on a piece of paper and burn them or release them
- GROWING IN DIFFERENT DIRECTIONS
It’s common for two people in a relationship to change in ways that aren’t aligned anymore – their values, dreams and priorities change. In such an instance, we may need to evaluate if we want to stay in the relationship or let go of it with love & respect.
TRY THIS TO KEEP THE LOVE ALIVE:
- Find common ground: Is there anything to hold the relationship together meaningfully?
- Accept that not every relationship is meant to last a lifetime
- Know that it’s possible for two good people to grow in different directions
- Explore a different way to preserve the relationship (this may or may not be desirable)
- DESTRUCTIVE COMMUNICATION
People who fall out of love will often first fall out of communication. Passive-aggressive communication, lack of attention, stonewalling and constant criticism are some common relationship killers.
TRY THIS TO KEEP THE LOVE ALIVE:
- Always strive to speak life into one another
- Strive to communicate with respect even when you’re angry or frustrated
- Communicate even when it’s hard & uncomfortable
- Remember that every disagreement is not an argument
Please note: the ideas shared in this article do not apply to extreme scenarios or abusive relationships (we might fall out of love in these and have no intention of reviving them) if something you read here does not resonate or feel appropriate for your unique experience, feel free to disregard.
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