Dive into the depths of your personality. Reflect on these questions to help you gain a deeper understanding of your thoughts, beliefs, passions, fears and dreams. Desires, Goals and Values…
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Self-discovery
Negative thought patterns can significantly impact our well-being and overall quality of life. From self-doubt and catastrophizing to overgeneralization and black-and-white thinking, these patterns can create a cycle of negativity,…
The Beautiful Mess Effect suggests that other people view our flaws, failures and vulnerability more positively than we ourselves do. We often fear how others may respond when we show…
You know that thing you feel deep in your gut? The feelings that you can’t pin down or explain in words. We often think of them as hunches, intuitions or…
The attachment theory by psychiatrist and psychoanalyst John Bowlby identifies four adult attachment styles: anxious, avoidant, disorganised and secure. While we may strongly identify with one type of attachment, it’s…
Relationships
What is Trauma Bonding? Trauma bonding is loyalty to a person who is destructive. It occurs because of cycles of abuse followed by intermittent love or reward. This treatment creates a powerful…
Family enmeshment describes the lack of boundaries between family members. It happens when roles are confused, parents are overly dependent on their children & family members are not allowed to…
Just started dating? Pay attention to these subtle and not-so-subtle warning signs. Yes, not everything is a red flag. However, carefully considering these patterns or behaviours when they show up…
A codependent person is one who has let another person’s behaviour deeply affect themselves. They may compulsively try to control the situation and the other person’s behaviour while neglecting /…
Dealing with an abusive relationship and healing from it is not impossible. If you find yourself in an abusive relationship that you are unable to leave, it is crucial to…
Life lessons
Paradox (noun): a seemingly contradictory statement which when investigated may prove to be well founded or true. When the number of choices increases, so does the difficult of making decisions…
The 5 second rule by Mel Robbins states that if you have an idea or impulse that needs to be worked on, you must physically move to start acting on…
WHAT IS COMPARATIVE SUFFERING? Comparative suffering happens when we stack our suffering against the suffering of others. It involves minimizing our own pain and problems because we feel that we…
ACCORDING TO SOCIAL PSYCHOLOGIST RODOLFO MENDOZA-DENTON “While you’re stuck ruminating, people have likely moved on. No big deal.” WAYS TO TURN OFF THE SPOTLIGHT EFFECT Be conscious of the spotlight…
Wellbeing
Perfectionism is a tricky personality trait. At its best, it motivates people to pursue their goals, learn from mistakes and become high achievers. At its worst, it can paralyse people…
Our bodies automatically respond to threat or danger with the fight, flight or freeze response to keep us safe. One way to end the fight / flight / freeze response…
Let’s go! The Pomodoro Technique Identify the task at hand Set a timer for 25 minutes Work for an interrupted duration of 25 mins Take a 5 minute break After…
Here’s what you can do in 2 minutes: Hand on heart, hand on belly. Take 5 slow deep breaths Recite and repeat your affirmations Name 5 things you see, 4…
Revenge Bedtime Procrastination is a psychological phenomenon where “people who don’t have much control over their daytime life refuse to sleep early in order to regain some sense of freedom…
Communication
Gaslighting is a form of manipulation and emotional abuse that constantly makes someone question or doubt their own reality. Unlike occasional confusing, difficult or manipulative behavior, gaslighting happens over and…
Sociologist Charles Derber describes two kinds of responses in conversations: a shift response and a support response. Shift Response: Shift responses are a form of conversational narcissism. They help you…
Take a moment to think about how these statements feel: “I love your idea but we can try…” “I can see you’re upset but I’m trying…” “I care about you…
According to Gary Chapman and Jennifer M. Thomas, the authors of ‘When Sorry Isn’t Enough’, we all have our preferred ways of receiving an apology. Just like our unique love…
Nonviolent communication is a way of communicating that helps people express their needs and build on relationships through empathy. It is a 4-step process that prioritises respect and avoids judgement,…