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Books to read
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The Midlife Unraveling
In my late thirties, my intuition had tried to warn me about the possibility of a midlife struggle. I experienced internal rumblings about the meaning and purpose of my life.
Ten Essential Skills for Navigating Conflict
None of us fall in love so that we can experience conflict, but conflict is inevitable. Why? Because the stakes are high, because our old wounds get activated, and because love requires interdependence,
How to Actually Practice Stoicism
Stoicism has experienced a surge in popularity over recent years, especially during the pandemic. It can provide people with a philosophy of life that holds the promise of greater emotional resilience.
The Ultimate Productivity Hack is Saying No
Not doing something will always be faster than doing it. This statement reminds me of the old computer programming saying, “Remember that there is no code faster than no code.”
It’s Your Friends Who Break Your Heart
It is an insolent cliché, almost, to note that our culture lacks the proper script for ending friendships. We have no rituals to observe, no paperwork to do, no boilerplate dialogue to crib from.
Trigger Warning: Reality Hurts
Years ago, many readers wrote to me complaining that I didn’t include trigger warnings in my articles. This was 2014-15 or so. The trigger warning thing had become popular on university campuses and left-leaning news sites
The seven habits that lead to happiness in old age
Imagine yourself 10 years from now. Will you be happier or less happy than you are today? I ask my graduate students—average age