How to stop obsessing over someone you cannot have

1. Acknowledge their unavailability. The person you have expectations from is, for whatever reason, unable to meet your needs / expectations. Their needs, desires and priorities from life are very different from your own.

2. Stop pedestalising them. The one you are obsessing over is just a human like you and there are plenty of people in the world. You may not get to have the relationship/ friendship you want with the person you are obsessing about but you can still have a healthy, fulfilling, reciprocal relationship/ friendship with someone else - if you are open to it.

3. If they are someone that you have barely said a word to, start communicating with them or initiating a meet up with them (if they are open to it). You may have built an image of them in your head and often getting to know them more closely can help you see them more clearly/ de-idealise them.

4. Meet more people. Try to branch out, invest in other people and cultivate relationships outside of the person in your life.

5. Understand that there is nothing you can do to make someone love you/ care about you/ be with you - no matter how obsessed you are with them.

6. Get obsessed with yourself (in a good way). 

• Learn to love and value yourself.
• Become absorbed in your own goals.
• Take yourself out on dates.
• Compliment yourself often.
• Make your inner conversation healthy.
• Pursue your interests and passions.