1. Have a direct conversation to let them know you need to end/ move on/ distance from the relationship. Be clear and kind.
2. If you have already tried enough and know you need to end things, do not try again, try to be friends, leave things open-ended etc. Have no doubt in your mind + leave no doubt in their mind that it is actually over.
3. Use “I” in sentences, not “you”.
“I feel…”
“I need to…”
“I can no longer…”
4. Do not get into all the details. This is the time for you to finally end things - not an opportunity to go through everything they have done wrong. Try to keep it short - without provoking more unpleasant feelings.
5. Ditch the blame game. Remember , you do not need to hurt them because you have been hurt. You do not need to attack them because you are attacked. You are walking away already and can do it quietly.
6. If they are upset or angry, stay quiet and allow them to be - it is not your job to manage their emotions and make sure they are okay.
7. You do not need to have your mic drop moment. It is okay to let them have the last word.
8. Avoid trash-talking when talking about them with others. It is okay to be hurt/ upset/ angry and express yourself in ways that feel better. However, repeatedly judging, villainising or bashing them erodes your own dignity.
